[Book Summary] The Four Agreements

Ever feel like you're constantly battling an invisible enemy? Like there's this constant pressure to be perfect, to please everyone, to always be "on"? I used to feel that way too. My therapist (may they rest in peace) recommended a book called "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz, and it completely changed my perspective.

This book isn't your typical self-help fluff. It's based on ancient Toltec wisdom, and it offers a powerful code of conduct that can transform your life. Ruiz argues that most of our suffering comes from the limiting beliefs and self-imposed rules we've internalized since childhood. By adopting these four simple agreements, we can break free from these patterns and create a life of joy, peace, and personal freedom.

Agreement 1: Be Impeccable with Your Word

This one's all about speaking with integrity and kindness. It means avoiding gossip, negativity, and self-criticism. It's about using your words to uplift and inspire, not to tear down or judge. This is surprisingly difficult because our language that we use internally and externally are ingrained into who we are. But once you try to be aware of the words we use, some bad situations can turn into good ones.

Agreement 2: Don't Take Anything Personally

This agreement was a game-changer for me. It's about recognizing that other people's actions and opinions are often a reflection of their own beliefs and experiences, not yours. When you stop taking things personally, you become immune to criticism and negativity.

Agreement 3: Don't Make Assumptions

We all do it, right? We jump to conclusions, fill in the blanks, and create stories in our heads. But assumptions often lead to misunderstandings and conflict. They can often make a short road that you can simply walk down into a jagged, bumpy, and treacherous path that leaves you battered. This agreement encourages us to ask questions, seek clarification, and communicate clearly and early.

Agreement 4: Always Do Your Best

This doesn't mean striving for perfection or pushing yourself to the point of burnout. It's about showing up fully in each moment and doing what you can, with the resources you have. Some days your best will be amazing, other days it might be less so. And that's okay.

These four agreements might seem simple, but they're incredibly powerful. They've helped me to let go of negativity, build stronger relationships, and live a more authentic and fulfilling life. I highly recommend checking out "The Four Agreements" if you're looking for a practical guide to personal transformation.

Have you read "The Four Agreements"? What are your thoughts on these principles? Share your experiences in the comments below!